The last few weeks my Church has been doing a series based around based on the book “Weird” by Craig Groeschel. Our Pastor speaks to the fact that normal people are stressed, overwhelmed, and exhausted. Many of their relationships are, at best, strained and, in most cases, just surviving. Even though we live in one of the most prosperous places on earth, normal is still living paycheck to paycheck and never getting ahead. Simply put, normal isn’t working. Groeschel’s WEIRD views will help you break free from the norm to lead a radically abnormal (and endlessly more fulfilling) life.
This weeks lesson was about being patient and letting good things naturally happen in your life. We want things NOW with immediate gratification. Normal people on the wide road focus on getting things NOW at the expense of the future. Weird people are willing to give up something they want NOW to attain something better later.
The lesson today really spoke to me because I’ve been struggling with the situation of my new wife, that currently lives in Alabama, has to go through an ugly custody battle with a man that is resorting to the court system rather than listening to the desires of his own children. They want to move, but he is forcing them to stay because of a loophole in the legal system.
Our relationship is “weird” to some people, but she’s my world, my soulmate, and I so pray that someday soon we will have the opportunity to live together…in a happy, loving home, and show our 6 children what a healthy relationship and family should look like. I want that NOW!! God has a plan, and it frustrates me often, but for now I commute 4 hours each way to spend about half the time with my wife and her four children. Two loving parents, six Children, being kept apart by, in my opinion, an awful, selfish man. It’s painful sometimes, and considered “weird” to many. To me, I’d rather have half of my time with her, than 100% with anyone I’ve ever met. She’s the most beautiful human being I know, and I never second guess that I will spend the rest of my life with her. I trust that God will answer our prayers, and we will be granted the “Ultimate” gift in his time, not mine.
It occured to me tonight that our profession is very similar to my relationship situation. People want success in Network Marketing NOW, and aren’t willing to wait 6-12 months to let it develop. Will it happen overnight? No it won’t. The only time I’ve ever seen that happen is when someone has a huge network marketing organization that switches companies and brings all their organization with them. For most of us, we have to be consistent, patient, keep plugging away over time, and eventually we will reach momentum. If you’re with a good, solid company it will happen every single time…but you have to wait for it to happen.
You also have to be willing to learn your trade, the industry, the products, and learn how successful people are doing it and do EXACTLY what they do. In most companies, there is a step by step process, and if you follow it, your odds of success increase greatly. Follow the leader, or follow the follower that is following the leader. “A” Type personalities have the tendency to want to do things their own way, and it rarely works out for them unless they’re willing to learn the ability to build relationships. Network Marketing is not a numbers game, it is a relationship game. Build relationships, and you will build a successful business.
Normal people have normal careers, they rarely try anything new, and very rarely have a Plan B. When times get tough, as they most certainly are right now, they are ill-prepared to adapt to an unexpected environment. They haven’t learned new skills, they watch TV or waste time on other things without giving a second thought to the fact that they live paycheck to paycheck already, and they are one missed check away from financial disaster.
Network Marketers, “weird” people, are some of the greatest people I know. They read personal development books, work on their self esteem, positive and open-minded, and simply by working a few hours a week they are able to generate $500-1000 a month part-time, or much much more…IF they try! The reason many don’t is because network marketing is considered “weird” to normal people. Working after hours isn’t normal. Having a Plan B isn’t normal. Buying an income producing business and getting tax benefits for a few hundred dollars isn’t normal. (Most treat it like a $300 business, not a million dollar enterprise) Paying off debt, and becoming financially free in 3-5 years with the right company isn’t normal. It’s just plain WEIRD! 🙂 And I love it…
I love my wife, I love my two Children of my own that I have half the time, and my four bonus children more than words can express. If I wanted to be Married for the sake of convenience, or something normal, that would have been easy. My situation today is far from easy. It’s painful being away from the people I love, in two separate households. I know that normal people don’t understand it. I have the person I’ve dreamed of all my life, and I’m willing to wait for the “Ultimate” to come when God says it’s time.
If you’re “Weird” like me, understand that there are no shortcuts in life, and you’re ready to prepare yourself for the future, I’d love to talk to you. Call me today at 865.388.4000 or leave a comment if you liked this article. Have your best week ever!