Today you will learn:
- How to “Start Where You Are?”
- 3 of The Biggest Mistakes People Make in Their Lives.
Designing your future sounds exciting, doesn’t it? Think back to when you were 20. The slate was clean, there was a world of possibilities, the sky was the limit, and you were focused on your dreams coming true. What happens to most of us? Life has a way of throwing us curves, and over time we conform to what others are doing. You will become like the Top 5 People you spend time with typically. You will have similar houses, incomes, lifestyles, drinking habits, drugs, cars, etc and typically stop taking chances as you get older. But wait a minute….where are you right now? Yes, I mean now. In your current life, your chair, your bed, in front of your computer… right now. Are you happy with your life? NOW is where we start to re-create our future.Designing a new life is like creating a masterpiece, but the only difference is that our “canvas” is not blank. We have experiences, thoughts, beliefs, ideas and things all over it. We can’t just wipe it all off and start over, nor would we want to – it would be a little strange to tell our kids to find new parents. We must create our masterpiece inside of the one we have already created. But we do it in a way that it is not just the new on top of the old, but an entirely different, transformed piece of art. And that is the fun part.
So, where do we start?
WHERE YOU ARE. Taken from the movie “The Pursuit of Happyness”, Chris Gardner (Will Smith) asks for advice on “How do I get started?” The man’s response… “Start where you Are.” You’ve heard the saying “Today is the first day of the rest of your life”? Well it is, and no matter what situation you find yourself in today, financially or otherwise, you can create the life you’ve imagined by exercising a few good habits, and repeating them on a daily basis. You didn’t get in your situation overnight, and you won’t get out of it overnight either. However, by taking massive action NOW, you can change your situation in as little as few days or weeks, but certainly within just a few months.
There are 3 key mistakes that most people make in designing their lives:
1. We ignore our past
When we don’t like an element of our past, we complain about it, make up a story about it or just simply ignore it. The problem is that we have thoughts, feelings and beliefs from those incidents that don’t go away. So we carry them with us into the present. Put the past in the past…Your New Life is Waiting!
2. We don’t want to face our present situation
We think we have a good relationship, but our partner thinks we have problems. We think we are close to our kids, then things go terribly wrong. We think our finances are in order, then tax time comes and we owe more than we thought. We think we are spiritual, but we don’t remember the last time we prayed. We like to keep things status quo. Problems scare and confuse us. FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real. We avoid trying new things to avoid potential problems with change. In fact most people operate with a fear of loss more than they desire positive gains in their life. Accept your current situation as it is, and focus on positive results in your future.
3. Because we are not clear about our past and our present, we don’t get the future we want
When we create our future from a place that is not real, it is like giving your accountant the wrong numbers for your tax return or like grabbing salt instead of sugar when baking a cake. If you’ve never made $100K a year, why expect to make $500K or take advice from people that don’t make 100K? That’s not reality, and it just plain doesn’t make sense. We build a life then we are surprised when it doesn’t turn out like we want. We just need to get real.